Four Steps to Rebuilding Trust in Your Relationship

devotional_rebuilding-trust.jpgHere at House on the Rock we have couples in crisis calling and emailing us daily to learn about our marriage intensive retreats … because something foundational in their marriage has eroded away … something so important they’ve begun to wonder whether they can ever see eye to eye again … and so valuable that they’re willing to spend 25 hours with us over a weekend to try and rebuild it …

What is it you ask … TRUST!

Proverbs 10:9 states, “Whoever walks in integrity walks securely, but he who makes his ways crooked will be found out.”

George MacDonald the Scottish novelist once said, “To be trusted is a greater compliment than being loved.”

If trust is so cherished in a marriage relationship, what can we do to build it up? Here’s four practical steps to help you begin!

Step One – Keep your Word. To the best of your ability, do what you say you’re going to do. If you promise to spend time with your spouse … do it! Promise to get a job completed … do it! Promise to be home at a certain time … make it happen!

Step Two – Be Transparent. This means having nothing to hide from your spouse. No hidden text messages … no hidden websites … no hidden finances … and one that couples often miss … no hidden emotions you’re not willing to share!

Step Three – Don’t Lie. It might sound trite and simple, but the reality is we all struggle with the truth. Whether it’s a blatant lie … “stretching the truth” … or letting your spouse believe something that isn’t true … it has no place in a marriage relationship.

And finally Step Four – Confess Promptly. The reality is that we’re not perfect people … and there’s gonna be times we don’t keep our word … we aren’t immediately transparent … or we lie. Instead of letting those situations fester and erode trust … quickly and appropriately confess your sins and mistakes.

The temporary pain of imperfection … combined with the goal of rebuilding intimacy will actually build a strong foundation of trust in your relationship.


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Have you drifted beyond “discouraged” to “desperate?” Have you realized that your marriage is crashing and burning, and it won’t get better without help? We have help!

Your interest in a marriage intensive means that you believe there is still hope for your marriage. That’s all we ask … that you can still see a flicker of life … and have a willingness to fan that flame back into a meaningful marriage. You owe it to yourself, your spouse and your children to make that effort.

Acknowledging your need for an intervention … or a miracle … is the first step to transforming your relationship. You might believe you’re too far apart … too hurt and damaged … or too far gone to save your marriage. We believe that our time together can help you begin to stop the craziness so you can begin putting your relationship with God and each other back together again.

May we encourage you … before you choose to extinguish the flame of your marriage forever, to make at least one more try?

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