Keeping a Short Leash with Your Spouse

devotional_dog leash.jpgWe work with many couples who are experiencing challenging marriages.  After they attend one of our intensives they realize how their marriage slipped slowly into the “crisis” situation that brought them to us … they let things get too far away from them … they didn’t keep a short leash on their marriage.  So, here are some thoughts to help us from letting things get too far away …

Keep a short leash on your relationship with God … Do not fall for all of the misleading messages within our culture that foster stinky thinking … Spend time in God’s Word and with His people … who will speak truth into your hearts and lives. 

Keep yourself in a right relationship with God …  The number one cause of marital separation is rooted in sin.  Remember the promise in I John 1:9: that if we confess our sin He (God) is faithful and just to forgive us our sin and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”

Keep a short leash on your marriage relationship

When the church at Ephesus fell from her first love … Jesus gave them the 3 r’s remedy … remember … repent … and return

So, take some time to reflect back and remember the good old days … when you were head over heels in love … hey, I know love is not just a feeling … but the committed relationship of a marriage is the best place to nurture and maintain loving feelings.

Repent … means to turn around …

So, if you are not feelin’ it … which is normal … stop and identify those things that are taking you away from each other … do an about face and start moving towards each other …

Finally return to the things you did at first … start acting as if you are trying to win the affection of your spouse’s heart all over again.  Do some of that dating behavior … a little flirting … a lot of talking … some cuddling … and see if those loving feelings don’t start coming back …

sign up

 devotional_Fan the Flame Marriage Intensives.jpg


Have you drifted beyond “discouraged” to “desperate?” Have you realized that your marriage is crashing and burning, and it won’t get better without help? We have help!

Your interest in a marriage intensive means that you believe there is still hope for your marriage. That’s all we ask … that you can still see a flicker of life … and have a willingness to fan that flame back into a meaningful marriage. You owe it to yourself, your spouse and your children to make that effort.

Acknowledging your need for an intervention … or a miracle … is the first step to transforming your relationship. You might believe you’re too far apart … too hurt and damaged … or too far gone to save your marriage. We believe that our time together can help you begin to stop the craziness so you can begin putting your relationship with God and each other back together again.

May we encourage you … before you choose to extinguish the flame of your marriage forever, to make at least one more try?

For more information about upcoming dates and pricing, simply go to: